Blog

A bookseller recently shared that they recommended the book “Polysecure,” a popular book on attachment and consensual non-monogamy, to many monogamous couples looking for guidance on improving their relationships. While the book was written by and for people navigating non-monogamy, its guidance on more secure relating, trauma-informed communication, and navigating jealousy is immensely helpful to monogamous couples. This has everything to do with the way dominant structures–monogamy, heterosexuality, cisgenderism, whiteness–thrive in unspoken expectations. When we name those expectations and ask whether they really work for us, we can become more aligned in our relationship with ourselves and others.

Read More