A Roadmap for Healing Intergenerational Trauma through Intergenerational Trauma Therapy
Many people come to therapy with an awareness that intergenerational trauma exists in their family. This awareness often brings with it a deep sense of the impact that historical and familial experiences have had on their own lives. It can be a pivotal moment, acknowledging the weight of this inherited trauma as well as the ways it has shaped their worldview, relationships, and sense of self. In Trauma Therapy, individuals seek to unravel these complex layers and understand how the past has influenced their present. While trying to find a path towards healing and breaking free from the patterns of intergenerational trauma. I often hear clients express a desire to heal and move forward from intergenerational trauma by trailblazing a new path. This "new path" might look like:
Considering a career change or pursuing past interests/passions.
Re-imagining a new life for the next generation, such as parenting your children or relating to your nieces and nephews differently.
Exploring identity development/formation and figuring out, "Who or what do I want to be?"
Navigating through your Intergenerational Trauma
While these pathways are valuable to explore, I often find that they can also bring up confusion and vulnerability. As clients dive into the idea of trailblazing a new path and envisioning a life beyond intergenerational trauma. By creating this new path they will confront the complexities of navigating uncharted territory. This exploration can stir up a range of emotions. From hope and excitement for the possibilities ahead, to fear and uncertainty about the unknown. Clients may grapple with questions about identity and purpose. While also seeing the impact of their choices on themselves and future generations. This process requires a delicate balance of introspection, self-compassion, and courage. As well as some help from a trained trauma therapist. Clients will have to confront the challenges of healing from this type of trauma. While also striving to create a different narrative for themselves and their families. Thus, when navigating intergenerational trauma, I often propose some additional path steps:
Normalize and validate the feelings of anger or resentment
It's natural to feel angry or resentful. This happens when identifying a lineage of intergenerational wounds and expired core beliefs/values. It makes sense to feel resentful toward your parents, who disciplined you in a way that was unhelpful or even harmful to you. It's understandable to resent your upbringing. An upbringing that may not have allowed you to explore your dreams and passions. We can understand our parents' well-intentioned efforts, while also validating our own feelings of resentment which may arise.
Give permission and space for grief
Often, we think of grief in relation to loss or death. Healing from intergenerational trauma might require a different type of grief, such as "grieving what wasn't" or "grieving what I wish I had but didn't." Many people argue that grieving in this way is a waste of time or energy because we can't change the past. While we can't change the past, making space for grief allows you to honor the young parts of you that feel unseen and unheard. It allows you to acknowledge the parts of you that learned how to cope and survive in your upbringing.
Acknowledge any fears surrounding this "new path”
What are you afraid would happen if you ___ (changed careers, chose something different, tried on a new aspect of your identity)? Is there a fear of failure, embarrassment, or sunk costs? While these fears can feel daunting, I often find that they are "workable" fears that can be reassured or negotiated with.
By breaking down these fears into manageable parts, you can address them one step at a time. Perhaps you can start by exploring small changes or experimenting with new ideas in a low-risk setting. This gradual approach allows you to test the waters and build confidence in your ability to navigate change. Additionally, reframing failure as a learning experience can help alleviate the fear associated with it. While turning it into an opportunity for growth and resilience.
Remember that your fears are valid, but they don't have to define your choices. With support from us here at Therapy on Fig, and self-reflection, you can work through these fears and move towards a path that aligns with your authentic self.
A Pathway to Healing through Intergenerational Trauma Therapy
While there isn't a clear step-by-step guide on how to heal intergenerational trauma, these steps can allow you to slow down. Allowing you to honor the parts of you that feel angry, resentful, grieved, or fearful. In turn, exploring questions such as "Who do I want to be? What changes do I want to make?" can feel less daunting and more supported with clarity, self-understanding, and connectedness.
This process involves creating space for self-reflection while acknowledging the impact of intergenerational trauma on your life. By nurturing self-awareness and practicing self-compassion, you can gradually unravel the layers of trauma, allowing you to envision a future that aligns with your values and aspirations. Each step taken towards healing is an opportunity for growth and empowerment which can foster a sense of resilience and purpose as you navigate the complexities of this trauma.
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Are you struggling with the lasting effects of intergenerational trauma? Therapy on Fig offers specialized Trauma Therapy in Los Angeles, CA to help you navigate and heal from these deep-seated wounds. Our trauma therapists provide a caring and supportive environment. Which allows you to explore the impact of intergenerational trauma on your life and relationships. Let us guide you on your journey to reclaiming your well-being and breaking free from the cycle of intergenerational trauma. Take the first step towards healing by following the steps below:
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