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The Number 1 Reason for Couples Therapy
The Number 1 Reason for Couples Therapy

So what's the real issue? What are you really trying to say to your partner? What are you not saying to the person who knows you intimately?

And the responsibility for communication isn't just on the speaker, but on the listener too. What, or when, are you unable to receive when your partner speaks? There was a time when love was passionate, and every word out of your loved one's mouth was cherished, so why did you stop listening?

Here are 3 ways to begin understanding the communication issues you're facing…

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couples therapySharon Yugrace-chan
When Purpose Stops Being Something to Chase
When Purpose Stops Being Something to Chase

But as we’ve moved toward a more secular, individualistic world, away from religious institutions and cultural roots, with the nuclear family valued above the “village,” purpose has become a personal endeavor. No one gets to tell you what your purpose is anymore. You get to create it.

The shadow of being free to define your own purpose is that when it doesn’t come easily, it can start to feel like something’s wrong with you, as if you haven’t done enough inner work to earn it.

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asian american therapySharon Yugrace-chan
Once a Third Culture Kid, Now an Adult Third Culture Kid: Why Adulting Feels Harder
Once a Third Culture Kid, Now an Adult Third Culture Kid: Why Adulting Feels Harder

When you grow up identifying as a Third Culture Kid (TCK), it's hard to imagine one day becoming an Adult Third Culture Kid (ATCK). (It's me. I'm one of them!) But just as all kids eventually grow into adults, third culture kids do, too. And with that shift comes a new layer of complexity to an already complex childhood.

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asian american therapy, third culture kid therapySharon Yugrace-chan
Interracial Relationships: The Unspoken “Mental Load” 
Interracial Relationships: The Unspoken “Mental Load” 

We were always aware of the intercultural differences—he being of Puerto Rican and Nicaraguan heritage and having spent his whole life on American soil, me being Malaysian-Chinese who’s lived through a mixture of Eastern and Western influences in different countries and cities. We spent most of our dating life long-distance, so we rarely were ‘seen’ together. But as we reflected on that moment together, we realized another layer to our relationship we needed to unpack: Others see us first as an interracial couple.

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couples therapy, asian american therapySharon Yugrace-chan